Wouldn’t it be nice if I could give you one pill that would give you instant courage and peace of mind? I can’t. But the best way to grow your courage in facing confrontations and difficult people, to have confidence and decrease worry, THAT I think I do know.
The best way I know how is to practice among others who support you and learn from you. You can be the catalyst for others, as you learn yourself how to put in place the methods of building your happiest most confident self. In working with others, you learn from your experiences and theirs. I can lead you in a supportive caring manner, as you show up for yourself and others.
Joining a group is tough.
Yes, showing up for a group is tough on the first night. Maybe they won’t be nice, maybe they won’t understand my concerns, maybe I’ll say something that is embarrassing, maybe someone will say something rude to me.
All the maybes about joining a group that run through your mind speak to your potential the group can open. And after the first night, you belong. The group is yours, and its not scary anymore.
My job is to guide the group.
It’s my job to make the group safe and helpful. It’s my job to understand the ways that assertiveness and confidence have been blocked. I create exercise and discussions to build your confidence. We work as a group to build daily practices that increase your calm and collected self-perceptions which become reality.
Your job…well that depends on which group you join.
Mindfulness Development
This is an 8-week group designed to support you in developing relaxation as a consistent habit. We explore various kinds of meditation and relaxation, and we meditate together.
You will be asked to keep a log to track experiences thoughts and feelings. We will discuss the inner and outer obstacles to creating and maintaining consistent daily relaxation. You will benefit from sharing some of the content from your log.
Acceptance Boundaries and Confidence (ABC group)
This group involves developing great relaxation and self care but there is a more. We will also focus on developing self acceptance and esteem, increased comfort in setting interpersonal boundaries, and developing confidence.
In this group, your job is to give and take support and encouragement; to gently, but consistently, expand your perceptions of yourself and create and maintain the boundaries you need. To increase your awareness of your strengths and to verbalize positive aspects of yourself and others.
We will be working create a kinder and stronger understanding of yourself, which comes from trusting yourself to speak up on your own behalf. It takes practice, but it is not a mystery. Maintaining the calm peace of mind that allows you to trust yourself and to know you will say what you need to say can be yours.